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Canada – We Need A Law https://test.weneedalaw.ca Thu, 05 Aug 2021 16:57:42 +0000 en-CA hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.8.9 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/cropped-wnal-logo-00afad-1231-32x32.png Canada – We Need A Law https://test.weneedalaw.ca 32 32 Three concerns with bubble zone laws https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2020/07/three-concerns-with-bubble-zone-laws/ Mon, 06 Jul 2020 22:08:01 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=4546
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Over the past few years, “safe access zone” laws, also called bubble zone laws, have been passed in Ontario, Alberta, Nova Scotia, and Quebec, and currently there is private member’s bill regarding this at the Manitoban legislature. Every time a province considers this issue, we’ve let you know and asked you to write to your representative pointing out the concerns with this type of law.

We are concerned about the ways these laws specifically ban pro-life speech. There are three restrictions that are particularly concerning in bubble zones, and I want to clarify those in more detail. I am using the Ontario legislation throughout; while other provinces’ laws might vary slightly in wording, they are similar in substance.

#1 Disapproval of abortion

Section 3(1)(c) While in bubble zone no person shall “perform or attempt to perform an act of disapproval concerning issues related to abortion services.”

It is illegal to disapprove abortion near an abortion clinic. It’s not about how you disapprove, but the act of disapproving itself is illegal. If it were about disapproving loudly, that could be regulated through something like a noise bylaw. If it were about preventing large protests, that could be regulated through restrictions on gathering size, as we are seeing in response to Covid-19. But this law is not concerned with the manner of communication at all. It’s all about the message being communicated. You may approve of abortion, but disapproval is illegal.

This means, for example, that two women could stand side by side outside an abortion clinic with signs – one saying “I regret my abortion” and the other saying “I don’t regret my abortion.” Despite each being a statement of personal experience on the same topic, only the latter is legal. This prohibition isn’t about protecting women’s safety, or even peace of mind, but about preventing women from hearing anything other than full of approval of abortion.

#2 Informing about abortion

Section 3(1)(b) While in a bubble zone no person shall “inform or attempt to inform a person concerning issues related to abortion services.”

It is illegal to provide information.

This is the most bizarre element of bubble zones laws. Why do we need to prohibit information? And not just misinformation; this law actually prohibits one person from informing another person about abortion. Why does a law purporting to guarantee women safe access to abortion require the suppression of information?

Women seeking abortions are making complicated decisions based on the information they have. This information could come from what they learned school, what they’ve heard from family members, what their friend said, what the abortionist tells them, what they read in the news, or what they saw online. The fact is we don’t make decisions in a vacuum but based on the whole world around us, and an informed choice requires information.

Every woman deserves to know the truth about abortion. Not just the truth about the actual procedure, but the truth about the humanity and corresponding human rights of her pre-born child. She is making a choice – she deserves to know what the choice entails. Silencing a dissenting voice doesn’t increase a woman’s autonomy or safety, it only decreases the information and potential support available to her.

#3 Advising someone against abortion

While in a bubble zone no person shall “advise or persuade, or attempt to advise or persuade, a person to refrain from accessing abortion services.” Section 3(1)(a).

Notice again the one-way application: it’s illegal to advise or persuade someone not to have an abortion, but there is no prohibition on persuading someone to have an abortion. This is despite the number of women who report feeling pressured into having abortions.

Persuading a woman to have an abortion is a serious issue. Some women are coerced. This is especially a concern for women being trafficked, who are sometimes forced to have an abortion by their pimp. It is also an issue of safety for minors who have been sexually assaulted, where abortion is used to cover up a crime. Some women face pressure from loved ones. Whether it’s a partner threatening to leave or a parent threatening to kick her out of the home, there are many ways a woman can be wrongly persuaded into having an abortion, yet there is no law to criminalize this.

Even without anyone actively pressuring her, a woman can feel like she has nowhere to go. Whether it’s financial, social, or career-wise, some women feel like abortion is their only option. We are allowed to advise her to have an abortion, but we can’t provide other options. We aren’t allowed to talk to her to see if we can address her underlying concerns. We aren’t allowed to let her know that there is support for her if she becomes a parent. A woman in that situation may well be making the hardest decision of her life – why are we not allowed to come alongside her?

“Safe access” laws are not about promoting women’s interests. They are about promoting abortion by preventing a woman from encountering the pro-life message at a time when she may need it the most. Anyone concerned about the lives of pre-born children and the well-being of women, not to mention anyone who values freedom of expression, must oppose bubble zone laws.

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Canadian Opinions on Abortion: Abortion Polls Summarized https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2020/06/canadian-opinions-on-abortion/ Thu, 04 Jun 2020 16:19:22 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=2888
Do Canadians support a law limiting abortion? Yes.

In all but one of the opinion polls publicly available since 2010, a majority of Canadians support at least some law regulating abortion.

Are Canadians pro-choice?

If you look at the polls that ask whether abortion is permissible (i.e. whether you always support a woman’s choice) the numbers are much closer, with an average of 48% supporting a choice at any point, 46% only supporting sometimes, and 5% unsure.

How can we interpret these results? With opinion polls it is always important to look at the methodology, what questions are being asked and who is being asked. For example, if you ask the average Canadian their opinions on abortion you must remember that (according to one poll) 77% of Canadians are unaware that Canada has no abortion law. Saying you support a women’s right to choose may mean something very different if you are assuming a woman can’t legally have a third trimester abortion.

The 2020 Dart poll is an excellent example of this. In that poll 71% believe a woman should be able to get an abortion for whatever reason, but at the same time 70% of Canadians think abortion should be illegal in the last trimester and 84% supported a law against sex selective abortion.

This illustrates the difference of being asked “Do you support women?” versus “Do you support the termination of a 24-week old fetus who is viable and can feel pain?” or “Do you support abortion targeting a pre-born child because of her sex?” It may feel good to affirm the first question, but uncomfortable when faced with what this means to the pre-born in the second questions.

Prominent pro-abortion activist Joyce Arthur acknowledges this saying, “Virtually everyone supports “freedom” and “privacy” so a large majority of people will agree that women should have both. But if specific questions are asked about exactly when fetal life should be protected, women’s so-called “complete freedom” to have abortions appears to take a sudden nosedive.” Abortion becomes far less palatable when you are faced with the reality of what it does to a pre-born human.

If you really want to know your opinion on abortion, consider the following:

  1. Do you know that Canada is the only democratic country with no law on abortion?
  2. Since Canada has no abortion law, do you think it is okay that abortions occur in the last trimester with no legal restrictions?
  3. Given questions 1 & 2, do you really think any choice a woman makes regarding her pre-born child should be legal?

If you’re not comfortable answering these questions in the affirmative, look at our International Standards Law as a solution. This proposed law would bring Canada in line with all other democratic countries in protecting pre-born children after 13-weeks gestation. It would also allow a waiting period for women seeking an abortion, along with independent counselling to ensure proper informed consent and to screen for coercion or abuse. It’s time we acknowledge that abortion is not only about women, but also about pre-born human beings. It’s time for a law that protects them, while supporting the women who carry them.

Links to opinion polls referenced in tables:

2010 Ipsos Reid

2011 AbacusData

2011 Environics

2012 Forum Research

2012 Postmedia

2012 Angus Reid

2013 Environics

2013 Angus Reid

2017 Ipsos Reid

2018 Angus Reid

2019 Public Square Research

2020 DART

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When the March comes home, it gets personal https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2020/05/when-the-march-comes-home-it-gets-personal/ Thu, 07 May 2020 21:36:52 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=4313
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by Anna Nienhuis

Let’s just get something out of the way right now: not everyone is going to like you all of the time.

I know, it’s not fun being unliked. But we can do this.

Sometimes being right is more important than being liked, and as Life Week approaches (next week!) this felt like an important reminder for myself, and maybe for you too.

We’ve been making signs, and already had conversations with a neighbour while outside taking photographs to share. Putting those same signs in my window for a full week, and then heading outside regularly to work in my front garden while keeping an eye on my biker gang of children means plenty more conversations are likely coming my way.

I’m not thinking all those conversations will be negative. Most will probably be pretty quick and vague as people try to get away from me as quickly and politely possible. Some will probably be encouraging, as those who were previously unaware of the status quo of legal abortion through all 9 months of pregnancy become aware and are rightly horrified. The issue of sex selective abortion is also one we can agree on: killing a child because she is a girl is wrong.

But it is possible I’ll trigger something for someone, because yes, abortion is a sensitive issue. Approximately one in four Canadian women will have an abortion. That’s someone I love, someone you love, and almost certainly someone in yours and my neighbourhood.

So, participating in Life Week this year may be more intimidating than going to a March for Life. At the March for Life, you can hide in the crowd – safe, supported, surrounded by others who agree with you about the sanctity of human life. Being an activist at home is different – you are not coming back to your neighbourhood to wind down after a day out marching: you are IN the neighbourhood marching.

And it’s worth it. Approximately 300 pre-born children are killed every day in Canada, and they cannot be heard unless we are willing to speak up. Silence on the issue only leads to death for more babies, and less support for women who are suffering. We are not in this to make friends: we are in this to change hearts and minds and wake our nation up to the injustice of abortion.

The pro-life message is not something to be embarrassed or quiet about: it is a message to be boldly, passionately shared. Life Week is a unique opportunity to do that in your neighbourhood, explaining that you cannot attend a March for Life due to the current restrictions, but are participating in other ways to spread the pro-life message.

Be kind. Listen well. Ask questions. Show your respect for every human life by how you treat every human you interact with. But do not be quiet, and do not be afraid to do hard things at home.

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How should the pro-life movement approach the CPC leadership race? https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2020/01/how-should-the-pro-life-movement-approach-the-cpc-leadership-race/ Sat, 11 Jan 2020 22:52:04 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=4042 Canadians are watching with a keen eye as candidates for leader of the Conservative Party declare their intentions. This includes pro-life Canadians who want to know what a future leader is willing to do about Canada’s complete lack of abortion restrictions.

Generally, it is assumed that this means they are carefully scrutinizing each leadership hopeful for whether they are “pro-life” or “pro-choice”, but the time has come for the pro-life movement to view things a bit differently.

What do we mean by that?

conservative leadership race

It means that we don’t necessarily need a leadership candidate to champion the issue, or even be identified as pro-life. Pro-lifers who are involved in the Conservative Party shouldn’t automatically dismiss a candidate who isn’t personally pro-life. Pro-life Conservatives should be less concerned about whether a future leader looks like them and more concerned about whether he or she realizes that pro-life conservatives make up an integral part of the party’s base.

The pro-life movement was instrumental in Andrew Scheer’s successful leadership bid, and has the potential to play a large part in the upcoming race. We are motivated, organized, and politically engaged. Through the work of organizations such as RightNow and Campaign Life Coalition the pro-life movement has become very efficient at nominating and electing candidates. A successful leadership candidate needs support from the pro-life movement. Pulling out tired lines like ‘not re-opening the debate’ or claiming that abortion is a ‘settled issue’ in Canada could be detrimental to a leadership campaign.

With Canada’s brokerage party system, the likelihood of a leader in a mainstream party who is willing to introduce abortion legislation is not very high. It’s understandable that a potential Prime Minister is not going to run on this issue. What we as the pro-life movement should be looking for is a leader who understands that the abortion debate is ongoing and who will allow individual MPs to introduce bills or motions that address the current legal void around abortion.

The Conservative Party of Canada has pro-life MPs, pro-life staffers, pro-life volunteers, pro-life members, and pro-life donors. Leadership hopefuls cannot ignore them if they want to unite the party or win the next election.

 

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“Money Talks” about Abortion https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2019/11/money-talks-about-abortion/ Tue, 26 Nov 2019 04:47:45 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=3954
It’s refreshing to hear simple facts from an unexpected source.

Michael Campbell hosts a show called “Money Talks” on Global News Radio. This show covers “everything to do with money: how to make it, how to spend it, how to grow it, and how to avoid letting it get away.” Unexpectedly, Campbell also dealt with the topic of abortion.

It was refreshing that, whether pro-life or not, Campbell was able to say simple facts about where we are as a country on this topic. At the end of the show, he talked about leaders of the federal parties in the aftermath of the election, venting his frustration with the way the media is talking about Andrew Scheer and his socially conservative views.

Campbell ends by making this statement about abortion:

“The suggestion when it comes to abortion that there’s agreement, I don’t see it. I see this. It’s completely legal – people don’t want to change that. But what about to what term?  Right now, it’s legal through all nine-months of pregnancy – that would be a fascinating discussion. Where do Canadians think there is a limit to that? But there’s no consensus, I don’t believe.”

Agreed. It would be a fascinating discussion – and one that Canadians are starting to have. Take a moment to communicate with your representatives on the importance of their participation in this ongoing debate.

For audio of the clip mentioned, click play below.

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Politicians need to stop using pre-born children as a political tool https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2019/11/politicians-need-to-stop-using-pre-born-children-as-a-political-tool/ Tue, 05 Nov 2019 23:20:17 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=3941 The topic of abortion was a hallmark of the 2019 election cycle. It was brought up repeatedly by the leaders of the various parties and was a topic at the leader’s debates. This is a cause for celebration for pro-life groups, but it comes also with some real disappointment in the way that these leaders used the topic as a political strategy. Using abortion as a political weapon is a remarkably degrading way to treat the pre-born children at the heart of the debate.

But abortion does need to be talked about.

Since 2012, We Need a Law has existed with a mission to build support for legislation to protect pre-born children in Canada. Canada is the only country in the world without abortion legislation. The increased attention on pre-born children has raised awareness that our lack of a legal framework protecting pre-born children is largely the result of inaction by our political leaders.

Abortion should absolutely be a key topic of debate in every election cycle – and in the intervening four years. But the focus should be on measures that will be implemented by each party to protect these smallest members of the human family. Most Canadians agree that it is discriminatory to abort a healthy girl because you wanted a boy. Most Canadians are also disgusted at the idea that a child can be killed even when he is developed enough to survive outside of the womb.

But unfortunately, these were not the topics our leaders discussed. Instead, they viewed pre-born children as a political tool, either to scare people away from voting for one party or to reach out to an assumed support group with vague assurances. All parties seem to view pre-born children as merely part of a political strategy, not as human beings being denied their most basic human right.

What can we do differently?

As we analyze the results of this election, we must be wary of falling into the same trap. We need to avoid the polarizing drama or the partisan games when they cause the focus to move away from the pre-born child and the need to have legal protection for the child. We Need a Law is non-partisan. One of the reasons for this is because we understand abortion to be a human rights issue, not a partisan issue. We focus on getting Canadians to start the conversation with their representative regardless of the party. We want you to develop a relationship and influence your leaders to start honestly seeing the human victim of abortion – the pre-born child.

This isn’t merely a numbers game of getting the most MPs from a particular party. There is a culture that needs to change. A culture in Ottawa in the way they discuss this issue, and a culture across Canada. One change that needs to happen is a shift to talking about actual legislation rather than focusing on whether someone personally holds a correct opinion. Pro-abortion Parliamentarians have had it easy, never having had to counter actual abortion legislation; abortion legislation like what the rest of the world has managed to implement, abortion legislation that most Canadians would support.

For too long, we’ve allowed the political conversation to be about personal opinions and vague ideas. This needs to change. We need to see real abortion legislation on the table, and MPs need to have a real conversation about what it would look like here in Canada.

Canadians are already having very real, serious, nuanced conversations about pre-born human rights. Our politicians do us and pre-born children an inexcusable disservice by refusing to engage in the debate in the same way. It’s time for our politicians to engage in a serious conversation about legislation that would, at the very least, bring our country into line with other Western democracies. We need a framework around late-term abortion, sex-selective abortion, and pre-born victims of crime. We need to recognize the humanity of our own children before they exit the womb.

 

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The worst place to be in Canada is in the womb https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2019/10/the-worst-place-to-be-in-canada-is-in-the-womb/ Fri, 01 Nov 2019 03:44:27 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=3938 A few weeks ago, Sandeep Prasad wrote about “the best, worst places to get an abortion in Canada.” Prasad talked about the uneven access to abortion across Canada, and called for Canadians to push leaders to focus on increasing abortion access. The suggestion is that pushing the pro-abortion agenda should be an expected standard from all elected politicians. We think the opposite is true: our leaders should be at the forefront of defending and protecting human life in all stages. Supporting abortion contradicts this at a fundamental level.

Abortion provides a bandage solution for problems like intimate partner violence, sexual abuse, lack of social supports, poverty, and myriad other issues our leaders should be focused on. If we advocate for life, we can also call on our leaders to address these related issues. If we call for death as a solution in any area, we can have no basis for an expectation that they will improve standards of living across our nation.

Yes, I agree with Prasad’s premise that health care services should be accessible to all, not just those lucky enough to live in the right place. But abortion is not healthcare. Healthcare seeks to heal, treat or prevent disease. Pregnancy is not a disease, and when serious complications arise there are always options that care for both mother and child. Delivering a baby alive to save a mother’s life, even if it may not survive, is inherently different than killing that pre-born child before removing it from the womb.

Yes, abortion access is spotty across Canada. But so is actual healthcare. If your appendix bursts in Northern Ontario, or you suffer a stroke in rural Saskatchewan, your medical care access is not going to be the same as it would in a major city centre. Abortion should be the least of our concerns – barring labour, pregnancy is about the safest medical condition one can have if you’re worried about getting to the doctor while the symptoms are still present. Framing abortion as a healthcare issue is an attempt to mask the fact that this is a human rights issue.

Prasad states that “abortion remains one of, if not the most stigmatized essential health service in Canada. While the 1988 Supreme Court ruling should have settled that abortion be treated like any other medical procedure, our lack of progress shows how thorny of an issue it still is.” But the Supreme Court ruling never intended to settle the issue. Rather, even the most liberal of the judges wrote that the pre-born child should be given protection at some stage. It left the law-making to Parliament, as is the Court’s place. It is only Parliament’s inaction and cowardice that has left us the only democracy in the world without restrictions on abortion.

The abortion debate is open, it always has been. The majority of Canadians support limits on abortion, and always have. But the status quo brought about by fearful lawmakers means the womb is a uniquely dangerous place to be in Canada. In the womb, we have human beings not considered persons under the law. It is the only place a human being has no legal protection, but is left completely at the mercy of someone bigger and stronger than themselves. We want leaders who will advocate tirelessly for the vulnerable and voiceless, not throw them under the political bus.

 

 

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Flags cover Supreme Court lawn in honour of pre-born children https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2019/10/flags-take-over-supreme-court-lawn-in-honour-of-pre-born-children/ Mon, 21 Oct 2019 19:36:03 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=3917 This weekend we had the honour of planting 100,000 flags on the lawn of the Supreme Court of Canada to draw attention to the ongoing injustice of abortion in Canada.

Supreme Court pro-life display

This weekend, we had the honour of planting 100,000 flags on the lawn of the Supreme Court of Canada to draw attention to the ongoing injustice of abortion in Canada. The sea of pink and blue flags is a humbling and sobering experience, as we consider that each flag represents one pre-born child whose life was taken, unprotected by our law. It is also a valuable opportunity to make visible those our society would like to forget.

We chose the Supreme Court location for the display because this is the court that struck down Canada’s abortion law in the 1988 Morgentaler ruling. This is also the Court that looked to Parliament to create a new law protecting “fetal interests,” or pre-born human rights. Parliament has failed to do that. This display and location gave a wonderful starting point for conversations, as we explained to people what happened at the Court and could then literally point to Parliament, within view, as we talked about the laws we would like to see enacted.

The far-reaching and devasting impact of abortion was evident on Saturday, as those going by somberly considered this ongoing injustice in Canada. This included one young couple who asked to plant their own flags. It also included one young woman who talked about being the daughter of a sexual assault survivor.

It was a beautiful opportunity to see hearts and minds changed about the status quo on abortion. So many people we talked to were unaware that Canada has no law restricting abortion, and our conversations affirmed polls, which say the majority of Canadians support some restrictions on abortion.

More than 60 volunteers joined us from various parts of Ontario to plant the pink and blue flags (truth be told, we didn’t fit the full 100,000 flags on that lawn and had to keep some in the boxes – that alone is a sad testimony to just how many lives have been taken). Many stayed all day to engage with their fellow Canadians on the issue of abortion, and help with clean up at the end of the day.

In Canada, we consistently see our leaders try to shut down debate about abortion and the humanity of the pre-born. But our experience continues to be that most Canadians are open to the discussion in a way our leaders are not. Our lack of laws is not reflective of Canadians, but is due to Parliament’s inaction. For this reason, we continue to talk to Canadians and to visibly display the massive number of lives lost to abortion each year.

Supreme Court pro-life display 

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October 18 is Person’s Day in Canada https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2019/10/october-18-is-persons-day-in-canada/ Fri, 18 Oct 2019 10:22:35 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=3913 October 18 marks Canada’s annual Person’s Day – a day recognizing the historic case less than 100 years ago when Canadian women were officially recognized as “persons” under the law.

Canada’s early laws used “persons” when referring to more than one person and “he” when referring to one person. It was treated as though these statutes were referring only to men, even when they used the term “persons”. This included the statute requiring senators to be “qualified persons”, which prevented women from being appointed to the Senate.

In 1927, five women launched a legal challenge that the Supreme Court rejected, deciding that women were not included as “persons” under that law. The women did not give up. They took their case to what was then Canada’s highest court of appeal, in Great Britain. The appeal was accepted and resulted in women being officially eligible for Senate appointments in 1929. This was a significant shift in the involvement of women in public and political life in Canada.

It resulted in the famous headline “Women are persons”:

Person's Day

Throughout history, the idea of a human being not being counted as person under the law has been used to deny basic human rights to groups such as slaves, Jews, and other minority groups. Today this argument is used to justify abortion and deny pre-born children the right to life.

Person’s Day is worth noting and celebrating for the gain it made for women. It is also proof that a country can recognize and right an injustice, and gives us hope for a future Person’s Day when pre-born children will be recognized as persons deserving of legal rights.

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Stories of sex selection in Canada https://test.weneedalaw.ca/2019/09/stories-of-sex-selection-in-canada/ Tue, 01 Oct 2019 03:56:28 +0000 https://test.weneedalaw.ca/?p=3861 Sex selection abortion happens in Canada. It impacts both boys and girls as families seek to create exactly the type of family they envisioned, but it disproportionately impacts girls. These stories are based on true stories, showing the very real decisions made based on sex preference, allowed by our complete lack of abortion law. We need a law.

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Story #1: More than we bargained for

Catherine showed Andrew the pregnancy test. There was a glow in her cheeks that showed only a fraction of the joy that was coursing through her. After being together for ten years, countless doctors appointments, various medications, and still being disappointed every month, Catherine and Andrew had finally decided to try IVF. The doctor had explained the process in a friendly but serious manner, going over the success rates.

“We will transfer three embryos into your uterus,” he had explained. “That way we improve the likelihood that at least one will implant itself there.” Catherine nodded, determined. She wanted a child.

The joy Andrew felt was only surpassed by his relief. Relief that it had succeeded. Catherine’s joy was all encompassing. Even that first day she began to speak to her child, despite knowing that the child couldn’t hear yet. This child was going to complete their family, going to complete her life. Nothing could lessen her joy.

The unabated joy, however, was sidelined by shock as Catherine lay on the table staring at the ultrasound screen. As she looked at her child, a mixture of emotions that she couldn’t even begin to describe took hold of heart. It was not just her child that she saw, it was her children. Three children to be precise. Every single one of the embryos had successfully implanted in her uterus. She looked over at Andrew, but he just stared at the screen.

When the doctor began to talk to them the shock had still not worn off. Catherine had wanted a child, but triplets? How could she possibly manage that?

“Each of the fetuses is healthy,” the doctor explained. “Of course, a multi-fetal pregnancy always comes with risks, for both you and the fetuses.” He gestured at Catherine. “We should discuss your options.”

“Options?” asked Andrew.

“Yes. We can, of course, reduce the pregnancy.”

“Reduce the pregnancy?” Andrew asked, uncomprehending.

“Yes, terminate one or two of the fetuses. You can also choose not to do so, in which case we will have to discuss how to monitor the pregnancy. With triplets come an increased risk of serious complications, including preterm labour and premature birth, which can have lasting consequences for the children.”

Andrew suddenly understood what was being implied and he looked at Catherine. “Reducing the pregnancy makes sense to me,” he said. “We aren’t ready for three anyway. It might make sense to keep two – who knows if we will ever get pregnant again, but three is just too much. Don’t you agree?”

Catherine didn’t respond right away. Shock still gripped her. She looked down at her stomach – not that there was anything to see there yet. But there would be soon. Triplets. Three babies. Inside her. And then she would have to give birth to them. And then she would have to care for them for the rest of her life. Fear was slowly replacing the shock.

“If we just reduce the pregnancy,” Andrew was saying, repeating the phrase he had only just learned. “We could see if we can have a boy and a girl. A perfect little family of four.”

Twins I can do, she thought. “Yeah, a boy and a girl would be perfect. What a gift that we can get two children instead of the one we were hoping for. That would be perfect.”

Andrew and Catherine went home to sleep on it, and decided to find out the sex of the babies she carried. Two girls and one boy. They talked, they cried, and then they agreed – a boy and a girl would be perfect. When they returned to the doctor, they were sure.

“Let’s reduce the pregnancy.”

And a girl lost her life because she was a girl.

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Story #2: Plenty of girls

Janine was putting together the finishing touches on her middle daughter’s costume. Just that morning, Annaliese had announced that she wanted to go trick-or-treating as an octopus. Despite searching every costume and thrift store in their small town, there was no octopus costume to be found. The look of disappointment on Annaliese’s face grew as they went to store after store, finding a princess dress for Sarah and a Batgirl outfit for Ellie. “What about a turtle?” Janine had asked her 6-year-old. Annaliese hadn’t said anything, but tears filled her eyes. Janine was not one to spoil her three girls, but her hearts strings were pulled. She loved her daughters dearly and wanted them to see the world for all the possibilities it had for women.

“Maybe we can be resourceful.” Janine said. “Let’s see if we can figure out how to make an octopus costume.” Annaliese was enthralled and they spent the rest of the day looking up patterns and finding the material they needed. Janine was proud of her daughter. She had worked hard and carefully all day. All that was left for Janine to do after her daughters were in bed was the finishing touches.

As she looked with satisfaction at the 8-legged costume, she heard the front door open as her husband Spencer arrived home from work. He was up for a promotion that kept him at the office longer these days. The costume was laid aside as another more serious topic took over her mind. Janine was unsure whether the wave of nausea she felt was the morning sickness or the dread of the conversation she intended to have.

Spencer was pulling food out of the fridge when she walked into the kitchen. She sat at the island as he turned to her.

“I found out today that it’s a girl,” Janine said. Spencer didn’t react right away, but Janine knew he must be feeling disappointment. He loved his daughters, she knew, but he had wanted a son. He had wanted someone to play catch with, to take fishing, and to carry on his name. Spencer would never have voiced this, but Janine knew. She knew, because she had wanted that to.

“So, a family of four girls,” he finally said.

“Well,” Janine said. “I was thinking about it. This isn’t a great time to have another child anyway. With you up for the promotion and working so much, maybe it would work better to wait. Three children is already a lot – wouldn’t it be better if we are going to have a fourth that we try again for a boy?”

Spencer pondered this for a moment. “It’s not too late?” he asked.

“I can still have it done at the clinic,” she responded. “And we haven’t told the girls yet so there won’t be any questions from them. The only people who know are our parents and we can just say it was miscarriage.”

Spencer nodded. “Ok. And when the timing’s better, we can try again for a boy.”

And a girl lost her life because she was a girl.

sex selection

The stories themselves do not always overtly show the misogyny in sex selection – the stories are not all filled with women-hating men coercing their wives into abortions every time they’re pregnant with a girl. Yet, in a country that claims to to value equality of the sexes, evidence has been found that a cultural valuing of males in some communities means girls are overwhelmingly targeted for abortion, especially if the family already has girls. Countries like China and India are dealing with this problem on wide-spread scale, but this is also a Canadian problem.

New assisted reproductive technologies have also made multiple pregnancies more likely, and those who practice these types of medicine look for ways to build a designer family and reduce potential risk. Sadly, “risk” in these case is too often a pre-born child.

If we say that equality of the sexes is important to us as Canadians, we need to back that up with laws that recognize their equal value from the earliest stages. Life is meant to be lived, not controlled. When we focus on designing our families to perfection, we will target those who do not fit our mold, be it based on sex, potential disability, or anything else. If we allow this kind of selection in the womb, that kind of thinking will impact our treatment of born human beings as well. We need a law that bans sex selection abortion, and everything it stands for.

 

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